Use community safety mechanisms (ATL, disengagement) as weapons for punishment or advantage rather than their intended purpose
The Pattern
Core Mechanism: Transform safety tools designed for de-escalation into punishment mechanisms, using them to win conflicts rather than resolve them safely.
Proper vs. Weaponized Use
Proper Use
Weaponized Use
Response to immediate threat
Punishment for past behavior
De-escalation tool
Escalation tool
Last resort when dialogue fails
Used instead of dialogue
Temporary and proportionate
Escalating demands
Mutual safety focus
Winning the conflict
Example 1: ATL During Mediation (August 2025)
The Context
Cloud and Elle were in active mediation with zoda as mediator
Cloud had filed harassment complaint after year of failed disengagement requests
Mediation process was ongoing
Elle's Use of ATL
ElleAugust 1, 2025
[Issued ATL against Cloud during active mediation]
Elle's Stated Rationale (per zoda)
"There had to be consequences. Otherwise, she may have done the same thing, again…"
The Problem
Intended purpose of ATL: Emergency safety response when de-escalation fails and someone needs immediate cooling-off period.
Elle's use: Punishment during active mediation process as "consequences" for filing complaint.
Impact
Undermined the mediation process
Used safety mechanism as a weapon for punishment
Mediator (zoda) eventually forfeited role, citing inability to continue
Sent message that filing complaints carries risk of ATL
Example 2: Escalating Disengagement Demands (December 2024)
The Pattern
December 21, 2024
Initial demand: 48 hours disengagement
December 22, 2024
Escalation: "I demand an additional week"
December 23, 2024
Further escalation: "Stop talking to me...Disengage for a week, starting yesterday"
December 24, 2024
Enforcement: "Disengage means leave me alone"
The Problem
Proper Disengagement
Weaponized Use
Mutual agreement to pause
Unilateral demand
Specific, proportionate duration
Escalating timeframes
Applied consistently
Selectively enforced
Goal: Cool off and resolve
Goal: Control and punish
How Mechanism Weaponization Works
Step 1: Identify Safety Mechanism
Choose a community safety tool (ATL, disengagement, etc.) that has legitimacy and authority.
Step 2: Invoke Without Proper Grounds
Use the mechanism outside its intended context - not for safety but for advantage.
Example: ATL during mediation as "consequences" rather than safety
Step 3: Frame as Legitimate
Cite the mechanism's authority to make it appear proper.
Example: "There had to be consequences" (ATL framed as necessary)
Step 4: Escalate if Challenged
If questioned, increase rather than decrease the demands.